Merry Christmas To All Who Don't

RE: Gala Christmas Party

FROM:    Patty Lewis, Human Resources Director

TO:         All Employees

DATE:    October 1, 2012

I am happy to inform you that the company Christmas Party will take place on December 23rd, starting at noon in the private function room at the Grill House. There will be a cash bar and plenty of drinks!  We'll have a small band playing traditional carols... feel free to sing along.  And don't be surprised if our CEO shows up dressed as Santa Claus! A Christmas tree will be lit at 1:00 PM.  Exchanges of gifts among employees can be done at that time; however, no gift should be over $10.00 to make the giving of gifts easy for everyone's pockets.  This gathering is only for employees!

Our CEO will make a special announcement at that time!

Merry Christmas to you and your family,

Patty

 

FROM:    Patty Lewis, Human Resources Director

TO:         All Employees

DATE:    October 2, 2012

RE:       Gala Holiday Party

In no way was yesterday's memo intended to exclude our Jewish employees.  We recognize that  Hanukkah is an important holiday, which often coincides with Christmas, though unfortunately not this year.  However, from now on,  we're calling it our "Holiday Party."  The same policy applies to any other employees who are not Christians and to those still celebrating Reconciliation Day.  There will be no Christmas tree and no Christmas carols will be sung.  We will have other types of music for your enjoyment.

Happy now?

Happy Holidays to you and your family,

Patty

 

Company Memo

FROM:   Patty Lewis, Human Resources Director

TO:        All Employees

DATE:   October 3, 2012

RE:        Holiday Party

Regarding the note I received from a member of Alcoholics Anonymous requesting a non-drinking table, you didn't sign your name.  I'm happy to accommodate this request, but if I put a sign on a table that reads, "AA Only", you wouldn't be anonymous anymore.  How am I supposed to handle this?

Somebody?

And sorry, but forget about the gift exchange, no gifts are allowed since the union members feel that $10.00 is too much money and the executives believe $10.00 is a little chintzy.

REMEMBER: NO GIFTS EXCHANGE WILL BE ALLOWED.

 

Company Memo

FROM:  Patty Lewis, Human Resources Director

To:        All Employees

DATE:   October 4, 2012

RE:        Generic Holiday Party

What a diverse group we are!  I had no idea that December 20th begins the Muslim holy month of Ramadan, which forbids eating and drinking during daylight hours.  There goes the party!  Seriously, we can appreciate how a luncheon at this time of year does not accommodate our Muslim employees' beliefs.  Perhaps the Grill House can hold off on serving your meal until the end of the party or else package everything for you to take it home.    

Will that work?

Meanwhile, I've arranged for members of Weight Watchers to sit farthest from the dessert buffet, and pregnant women will get the table closest to the restrooms.

Gays are allowed to sit with each other.  Lesbians do not have to sit with Gay men, each group will have their own table.

Yes, there will be flower arrangement for the Gay men's table.

To the person asking permission to cross dress, the Grill House asks that no cross-dressing be allowed, apparently because of concerns about confusion in the restrooms.  

Sorry.

We will have booster seats for short people.

Low-fat food will be available for those on a diet.

I am sorry to report that we cannot control the amount of salt used in the food .  

The Grill House suggests that people with high blood pressure taste a bite first.

There will be fresh "low sugar" fruits as dessert for diabetics, but the restaurant cannot supply "no sugar" desserts. 

Sorry!

Did I miss anything?!?!?

Patty

 

Company Memo

FROM:   Patty Lewis, Human Resources Director

TO:         All  F...... Employees

DATE:    October  5, 2012

RE:         The F****** Holiday Party

I've had it with you vegetarian pricks!!!  We're going to keep this party at the Grill House whether you like it or not, so you can sit quietly at the table furthest from the "grill of death," as you so quaintly put it, and you'll get your f***** salad bar, including organic tomatoes.  But you know, tomatoes have feelings, too.  They scream when you slice them.  I've heard them scream.  I'm hearing them scream right NOW!

The rest of you f***** weirdo’s can kiss my ass.  I hope you all have a rotten holiday!

Drive drunk and die,

The Bitch from Hell!!!

 

Company Memo

FROM:  Joan Bishop, Acting Human Resources Director

DATE:   October  6, 2012

RE:        Patty Lewis and Holiday Party

I'm sure I speak for all of us in wishing Patty Lewis a speedy recovery and I'll continue to forward your cards to her.

In the meantime, management has decided to cancel our Holiday Party and give everyone the afternoon of the 23rd off with full pay.

Happy Holidays!

Joan

Raking the Leaves

Nothing like raking leaves as the sun is going down. 

Especially if done with a lawn mower while listening to an MP3 player.

How Was Your Day?

Does anyone what to know how my day went? I was working towards having an easy day servicing the grocery stores as the rest of mankind was at the mall and department stores. And so on this day, Murphy's Law reared its ugly head and made me its whipping boy.

The whole endcap section collapsed. Completely full of 1.5 Pepsi bottles and 18 pack can drinks on the front shelves. The side sections held Cheez-It's and store brand chips. It took eight(8) shopping carts to carry everything to the backroom for me to clean up. Including mopping the sales floor and the trail of soda leading to the backroom. 

Traveling in Style

I got a chance to use the company car for the day. A Toyota Yaris. I won't say too much about the car due to the fact that I love my job but I will say that it's very interesting that I have to lean over to the passenger seat to see the speedometer gauge. All in all my wife likes it because its small. 

Falling Entertainment

Like many vendors, lunch is usually drive-through or a packed lunch from home. And we can usually be found eating our lunch in our vehicles with the radio, reading something while playing a game or two on the cell phone. Two days ago I happened to look up and was treated to a very entertaining show.

I just happened to see a car circling the parking lot as a man came out of the grocery store. Dressed in the way many guys do with the fashion of wearing ones pants, without a belt, hanging down so their underwear can be seen. He was walking towards the car that was parked far from the grocery story but began running as the woman in the car started yelling for him to hurry up. Grapping his pants, in the way that it looked like he had to go to the bathroom really badly, he started running and yelling at the woman. As the many cuss words filled the air the man, while running, changed hands but in all of his multi-tasking, didn’t grab his pants in time which lead to a most revealing event.

Unable to grab his pants in time while running, they fell very quickly to his knees causing him to stumble over and sliding to a complete stop with his butt sticking up in the air. The girl in the car was laughing way out load with a sprinkling of vulgarities to the man who responded with a few choice words towards her. He got up and checked himself and eventually pulled his pants up and limping his way to the car as their argument continued on as they left the parking lot.

As I looked around the parking lot I caught eyes with a few other vendors enjoying their lunch as well as the show. All of us were laughing understandably of what we had just witnessed. Life carries on no matter what. Sometimes just looking around and it provides you with wonderful entertainment.

My Day Job

A couple of pictures of displays I have been building lately at work. 

NASCAR

ACC - (Atlantic Coast Conference)

Natural Water

Handicap Parkers

Over the weekend there was a bit of excitement at a local shopping center in Raleigh, North Carolina. While normal people park their vehicles in the parking area, many have decided to park in the emergency parking area designed for fire trucks, police as well as ambulances. Guess who showed up.

A few car owners were more than embarrassed as they tried to explain to the police officers why they chose to use this parking location. One lady purchased a weeks worth of groceries for her family while another man wanted to quickly purchase a case of beer as to another individual who was just picking up a few things. One individual was told his using a handicap card didn't give him permission to park their plus he was not handicap and the card was not his. The officer took the card away and he was given an extra ticket for his stupidity.

Sometimes the thorns are worth it

To me there are three ways people acquire great blessings throughout their lives. They go through much hardship and are finally rewarded; it is given from the blessings of others or it is easily given to them only to later pay for it at another time. With me, I went through hardship of my gallbladder surgery in July, 2010 due to complications relating to an almost induced heart attack as well as waking up during surgery. That left me out of work for weeks and using up all my future vacation time. But that hardship would be rewarded better than I could even imagine.

 When I was able to go back to work, I found out that I qualified for short term disability. I had all the forms completed and turned in to the corporate office but never heard anything else from them. Then one Saturday afternoon I’m talking with my supervisor and the topic of my upcoming vacation time was brought up. Questions on if I still had it or not was discussed but he promised to look into it for me. And late Monday morning he called me to deliver surprisingly great news.  

Apparently the paperwork did go through and I was going to be able to use my last vacation week. And that’s not all. My gallbladder adventure took place during my scheduled vacation time in July and as a result, I was getting that vacation back. The only problem was that I have to use it before the end of the year or I would lose it. And seeing as my last vacation begins just before Christmas left me with little options. Luckily I was able to get the week before my upcoming vacation starts which produced a two week, back-to-back vacation. But it comes with a catch.

I have to return to work on December 24^th.  Yes I will have two weeks of non-stop TV and internet odyssey without having to deal with the madness of Christmas shoppers. Women camped out by the meat department talking about that one relative they dread seeing every year while trying to get a cheap turkey as with the family reunions of an assortment of people taking place on the very grocery isle I need to work on. During their conversation they practice the ability to avoid the fact that I’m standing right behind them. But once they realize that I am really enjoying hearing their conversation, they leave.

Although I would say having my wife begging to go shopping every time an advertisement comes in the mail is very tempting in wanting to return to work.  

Korean Adventure

So there I was minding my own business when I encountered a sight like no other. I was in a grocery store around Apex, NC on a Friday before Labor Day. As many people were preparing to leave for the beach or mountain theme park s the day was going by rather peacefully. As I was finishing up for the day I noticed this Korean lady doing some grocery shopping. I knew she was Korean because of her cell phone conversation plus the fact, contrary to stereo types; Koreans have a certain aura about them that is different from other Asian people. It’s hard to explain so let’s move on with the story shall we?

As she ended her phone conversation she continued her shopping while dressed in a most beautiful dress outfit. It looked similar to a spring time dress with lots of flower designs imprinted on it and a long slit going up the side of the dress. She looked somewhere in her late 30’s, early 40’s with a slender built, average chest size with long clean shaven legs and other body parts going with her 5.5 foot height built. With her long hair going well pass the waist line and wearing two inch high heel shoes. I was only able to get a quick glance at her before she had to leave the store to change her clothes.

It seems that while she was doing her shopping she didn’t take into account the dress of hers kind of lifted itself up a bit more than she knew whenever she squatted down to look at an item. It was evident later on that she was going commando or to be more precise, no underwear. But being the gentleman that I am I continued to carry on with my job until I became involved in helping her in a small crisis she was having by now.

She had bent down to pick up a rather large item and while trying to mange it and safely place it into her shopping cart, her dress became entrapped with the item. So as she was able to get the item in her shopping cart, so did she also get part of her dress in it as well. She quietly called out to me for assistance as I quickly came to her aid especially since she was standing naked from the waist down while her torn dress was lying under a very heavy grocery item. Lifting the item she retrieved she dress and tried to see how badly her dress was ripped.

As she asked for my advice, it became apparent that her dress was seriously ripped. I also noticed her private area very clearly from front and back as we tried to adjust her dress so she could leave the store with some dignity. Before she left she did apologize for creating a scene given that if someone had come around to the grocery isle we were on, it would look like I was sexually attacking her or that she was nudist exhibitionists. But as luck would have it for the both of us, the store was particularly slow seeing as many people had already or were getting ready to leave for the holiday weekend.

She left the store with no one noticing her ripped dress being held by one hand while the other hand keep it from opening up from the side and giving everyone a view to remember. About 30 minutes later I was heading home for the day. And about an hour and ½ later after making it through holiday traffic I made it home. I was so tired of working many deliveries and stocking up many stores that I had a quick dinner and went to bed that night. I drifted off to sleep remembering my Korean sightseeing adventure.

Ending Stress

No matter how bad a day one is going through there is always humor to be found in order to lighten the day. The problem is that once someone is having a really bad day, they have already developed tunnel vision and like the old saying goes; ‘You can’t see the tree because of the forest’.

I was working at one store dealing with four pallets of product, a short time to completely work the pallets to the shelves, condense everything to keep the store manager happy before I had to leave and work a great deal of many more stores in the same situation before heading home to cut the grass while taking care of two kids due to their mother being sick with a summer cold. Oh and do the grocery shopping before coming home. A typical day for the working person.

About half way working this store I was in the back room loading up another cart to take to the floor when I and a few others noticed the store manager acting like he was not happy with his phone conversation. It got to the point that he put the phone on speaker so everyone could here this woman complain in great detail. That is if you count repeating the same thing in every other sentence going into detail. At this moment it became break time.

Apparently, this ‘lady’ was shopping and when it became time to pay for her items; she laid all her coupons on the little counter where you write out checks. After the casher rang up all the items she took the coupons and starting scanning them. To the horror of ‘this lady’ who had not yet sorted out her coupons to decide which ones she was or wasn’t going to use. It took a good ten minutes for the lady on the phone to explain her side of the story due to the fact that every other sentence was; “And then she took my coupons!”

My very long day became a little more enjoyable. Even the Stores receiver was going around in the back room saying ‘Don’t take my coupons.’ A great deal of stress that was building up all of a sudden had gone away. For the rest of the day I kept remembering the sound of a woman screaming on a phone about a cashier taking coupons that were on a counter. Her voice is very similar to Steve Urkel on the TV show Family Matters. But with a lot more of a high pitch whining tone. She might have been having a bad day but I walking on sunshine after listening to her.

Grocery cart drivers

In my dealings with working in grocery stores I have witness a lot of odd shopping habits of people. If people drive a car the way they operate their shopping cart then the apocalypse might arrive a lot quicker than expected. One Saturday I was working at this one store and I came across what most people would call a ‘Road Hog’. She had her personnel notebook filled with about a few thousand coupons and apparently nothing else to do for the whole day.

As I’m moving my cart up the isle that she was on I knew it was going to take a while. For you see it seemed that she required the entire isle to organized her coupons as well as talk to whom ever it was on the phone on what to buy in regards to her coupon collection. And during her conversation she did her best as not to notice me which would require her to move more than 2 inches an hour. Even as I asked her kindly to let me get by she just gave me the universal finger wave for just one more minute and proceeded to turn her head away from me.

But her concentration to her shopping and what to fix for dinner was cut short as another store customer basically told her to move it. To which she instinctively looked my way as if she wanted to rip my head off but tried to act all innocent like when she saw a lot of customers were trying to get by her. The guy who told her to move it made a few more comments to her that used a lot of curse words and except for this lady; everyone else was thinking the same thing that this guy was saying.

 Lucky for me a few customers had already informed the manager about this lady taking up every shopping isle she was on and talking nonstop and loudly on her phone. So when she tried to get me into trouble, the manager was ready to keep her a happy customer and I still have a job with no problems at all with the manager.  And again if people drive their cars the way they use a shopping cart then the end of the world is near.

What the ...?

While working in a grocery store this morning I noticed this sign by the emergency exit door. As a matter of fact a lot of vendors noticed the sign leading to a good laugh at the stores expense and a quick post on the web. Enjoy.

Vendor Rights - part 2

Friday as I was working the store as I usually do everything was going on as it usually does. The topics of sports, family or whatever news topic is relevant at that time. But it wasn’t until the next day that the main topic of interest was the fact that the store manager as well as the assistant manager was fired. Not for any of the usual reasons of drugs, employee disputes, a drop in store sales or the occasional sex with whom or whatever. They were fired because they were too nice.

The stores Upper District Management came to the store and were ordering the Store manager to do more manager duties relating to the employee’s and the vendors who service the store. They wanted the store manager to be more forceful towards the vendors such as keeping no back stock in the store and making sure that even if one item, a package of any kind is placed in a customers shopping cart, that there will be a vendor present in that store to replace that package back on the shelf.

There was a much longer list of items they were requiring the store manager to do but at the end of their conversation the store manager basically said he was leaving the company. He wasn’t going to put up with the list of demands they wanted him to do that would involve putting undo strain to the relations he has with the vendors. So he basically quit but overall he was targeted to being fired or forced to step down as store manager. When the District Management approached the assistant manager they didn’t give him a choice at all. They fired him on the spot without a voice.

And all day Saturday that was the main topic of discussion at that store and the surrounding other stores as vendors of all types shared stories of dealing with this store chain that call themselves ‘Your Neighborhood Food Market’. This store chain recently opened a new store in the North Hills shopping area in Raleigh. A really nice two store grocery store that comes equip with a service elevator for the vendors to use when the store is not storing their back stock in it.

A local beer vendor stated that his boss received a phone call stating that his store has received no service at all for the entire day and wanted someone to come in and service him ‘NOW’. The interesting thing was that there was a beer vendor who stayed in that store for the whole day because of the ‘Grand Opening Sale’. To add insult to injury to this store manage was that he forgot that he had a conversation with the Beer Supervisor early that morning when then the manager was aware that there would be a beer representative in that store all day. And to put the nail in the coffin for the store manager was the fact that the Beer Supervisor had just talked with the beer vendor in the store. And the vendor who was to be in the store all day for the sale was standing right next to the store manager who was on the phone.

This is a common tactic with this grocery store chain. They do have a great deal of sales from time to time but this store primary caters to the rich and the upper middle class. And it’s that mentality that they have for all the vendors who come into their store. Vendors are basically treated like the bastard step-child. A policy that requires a total lack of humanity.

Pet Peeve

One of the growing complaints when I service a few grocery stores from employee's as well as customers who shop there is a growing trend where someone will go inside and do the shopping while the driver will wait outside in the car. The problem with this is that they will wait right in front of the entrance to the store. I was buying a few things as two cashiers were commenting on this truck blocking the stores entrance. As I was getting my receipt and proceeding to leave, a lady customer with a shopping cart fully loaded down with about what looked like a 3 month supply of food was apologizing for her husbands parking habits. This picture was taken one morning while just as I was leaving the store.

Vendor Rights

Never let it be said that once a person has finished school and enters the job market that they will never again experience school life again. For that matter being treated like a student. A while ago I was working at a grocery store known as ‘Your Neighborhood Market’ where a meeting was taking place with all the wine and beer vendors. I wasn’t part of the meeting being held in the back room but I was able to overhear a large portion of that meeting. A meeting being held by a store associate still in her 20’s while all the other vendors in the meeting have ages ranging between upper 30’s to mid 50’s.

This store associate, to be as nice as I can type it, treated these vendors like Henry the 8th at a dating service. She treated them with little to no respect to the point other vendors overhearing this meeting wanted to listen in just for the absurdity of this store’s associates missing the point. But at the end there was a happy ending. But during this meeting she was talking down to them like they were in Kindergarten.

Points from the meeting were like this.
• Clean your shelf space.
• Put all your trash in the trash can.
• Keep everything in your space.
• Do not bother other space outside of your area.
• If you need help, ask a store associate.
• Don’t steal shelf space from the area next to you.
• Be on time, don’t come late.

It got to the point that the Wine and Beer vendors were starting to ask her if this was really relating to them; especially to the way she was talking down to them. She fired back about if they do not follow store policy they would not be allowed back into the store and possible faces lose of display space in the store. By then the Store Manage came to attend the meeting to where the vendors began asking him about the importance of this meeting. Ignoring the store associate who was there. She was ‘pissed beyond belief’.

The Store Manage, who is after all a nice guy. No one there has any problems with him because he is basically like the Sheriff of Mayberry (famous TV show), laid back with little to no stress. He stated that there were problems being reported that a vendor was taking space from other vendors and leaving a mess around his shelf space and his back stock. He then said he wanted to speak to him personally about the matter and ask for him by name.

Everyone looked around but eventually all eyes fell on the female associate who was giving the meeting. The vendor who was causing all these problems in that store was off on that day. The store associate who was giving the meeting knew that but continued to have the meeting. One beer vendor asked the Store Manager why we were talked down like little Kindergartners by someone who was almost half their age when the one vendor who needed to be talked to wasn’t even there.

The Manager said that it was store policy to talk with all the vendors. The one vendor in question will be spoken to about this matter when he comes back to work. By that point the meeting was over whether the female store’s associate giving the meeting liked it or not. She even raised her voice and demanded that they returned to the meeting or face severe consequences. No one listened to her as she continued to talk until the Manager told her to her face that this meeting shouldn’t even have taken place if the vendor in question was not there.

And throughout the next few days that was one of the stories the wine and beer vendors were telling other vendors and associates in other stores about that meeting. Eventually the vendor in question was talked to but not in the manner that all the other vendors were. And I can be honest in saying that a lot of vendors refuse to shop in certain grocery or department stores because of the way they are treated as vendors in those stores. Even I have a few grocery stores I will never shop in due to the way I was treated there. As a vendor told me years ago, “Why do I want to support a place that treats me like crap?”

Grocery Store of Today

I have worked in a lot of grocery stores, department stores, restaurants and gas stations. All very similar that can be described similar to cars and trucks. Some big, small, plenty or not enough space. This store in question from the slide show you have seen is a wonderful store for the small community it services. Management and staff who works there are great and friendly. The people who shop at this store are the type you would see on The Andy Griffith Show. This grocery store really helped the community who would have otherwise had to drive over 10 miles to the next nearest grocery store. But this entire store has one major problem that becomes very obvious as soon as one enters the store.

It is way to small to shop in and for vendors to service the store properly. At times there could be a traffic jam of people trying to enter and leave the store. Let alone going up and down the isles that are just wide enough for a shopping cart to get pass a floor display. Where long lines at the register consist of a customer standing near by the cashier while the next customer in line is still in the grocery isle. A really small store. A lot of people shop here and the store is really a big bust to the towns economy as a few more specialty stores like a Chinese and pizzeria have opened up next door.

With so much business being conducted in this store, Vendors have to keep plenty of products in the store to make sure the shelves can be restocked quickly if needed. But the backroom is only less than a quarter the size of the whole store so finding space is one small problem when keeping back stock, the major difficulty is trying to get to it when you need it the most. The back room receiving area has only enough space for unloading a trucks delivery. But only hallway space to store everything else. When the store receives their grocery truck, they have to carry many of the pallets they receive to the sales floor so as to being able to fully unload the truck. Shopping carts are the preferred use of the Vendors who service this store due to a hand cart is almost but impossible to get into the back room. Not the managers’ fault or the employees but greatly to the size of the store in effort to save money and cut corners at the cost of their reputation.

Guess where I've been

Starting on Thursday a Wal Mart near Raleigh lowered the price of ALL Pepsi 2 liters to 59 cents. Great business for us. Although it would be nice to have a little more notice say a day before the price changes. I was in a morning meeting when a sales rep called in during the meeting to say his Wal Mart lowered there prices. A few Wal Marts, not all, did this but the one I was working at really made a big push for this to be a huge sale for the store. Pallet displays were placed by both entrances as was a huge end cap loaded down with 2 liters.

The Wal Mart I was at is a new one located just where Highway 40 crosses Highway 42. Leaving Raleigh, NC heading towards Wilmington, NC exit 312 (HWY 42). At the light turn left. You will pass the Cracker Barrel and Lowes Hardware and the Super Wal Mart will be located on the right at the next light. It is built totally different from all the older Super Wal Marts plus a deli center where you can get a lunch or dinner plate that taste a lot better than the fast food places. But you still have a time limit to get to the bathroom after you eat the stuff. Last look their gas station had gas at $2.37 a gallon.

Normally a few Wal Mart’s will let you use a pallet jack until 8 AM but many will not let you use them at all. The store manager here insisted that we use them. After all, every display and shelf area was selling out within 30 minutes. I would carry out a whole pallet of 2 litter Pepsi (320 bottles) and the pallet would be empty by the time I made it to the last display. For at least 12 hours a day with 2 full tractor trailer load delivered to the store every day I stayed constantly busy. When I left the store another Pepsi merchandiser would come in and work until 2 or 3 AM. When he would leave the store there would be only 2 to 3 pallets of back stock left and by 5 AM a truck would pull up and unload 26 more pallets to be worked down until the next full truck load arrived by 1 or 2 PM.

Needless to say, I purchased a few cases myself before going home although it will take a while to catch up on some sleep and other activities but in all it was a good experience to being able to work out in the country area away from the city where a lot of different store personnel and a few selected customers types can be a little too rounded up a bit. If not more.

Secret Friend

At a local grocery store, two ladies who work there had their hair done in a new style. As most women worry a great deal on the appearance of themselves, word travels quickly to all the vendors that work in the area. So Monday morning, every vendor who entered the store made it a point to complement the women on their new hair style. Needless to say, both women felt like they were flying on the clouds.

Mind you the ladies really didn’t change their hair style that much but with a majority of all the vendors being that of the married kind, we’ve become trained of knowing the importance of giving a complement when we don’t have a clue on giving one.

Fighting at Work

Stress can hit you when you least expect it.

The other day I was in the backroom at one store loading a cart with merchandise when I heard two vendors yelling at one another. The receiver was there but the situation was typical guys just blowing off steam. That was the case until they made references about taking it outside. By that point in their argument the store receiver broke it up. Both receivers went their separate ways and did their jobs. Later one of the vendors said he didn’t know what had happened. He stated that he just snapped.

It won’t be too long before both Vendors are talking and joking around again. A big difference on how most women I know would handle the situation. Most women would want to talk about feelings and letting it all out. Not keeping it bottled in. To were as men just clam up and say nothing. Basically, men would like to let the problem die without giving life to it. For if a man expressed what he is really thinking then you know the police are going to be called in.